I love this! What you say is bang on. I wrote a bit about this re-entry in my last post about telling my boss I was pregnant and navigating the return to work. I came to the same conclusion that realised that the "machine" I was at work prior to kids was someone I had to leave behind. Childcare limits necessitate a hard out at 5pm for one thing! But there is still much masking to be done every single day. There is a fear of not being valued or seeming unprofessional because you want to prioritise your child. How stressful we each found fitting back into work post-mat leave across my working mum mates, directly correlated with the degree to which their household relied on their income. More fear of revealing the true struggle = appearing more unreliable to employer = high risk strategy.
Thanks for taking the time to share. Interesting that the stress correlated to the financial pressure to earn. Being real, authentic, admitting how little sleep they were getting etc would be far too risky. I’ll check out your post too x
👏👏👏on getting these platforms to spread the message. Shocking truth is ‘Brad’ if did have kids he would still do all those things because the mother of his children is pulling the load alone unless ’Brad’ deans to ‘help her out’. It’s not just seismic change is the UNPAID LABOUR that sinks us. I for one embraced going back to work where I could actually finish a hot cup of tea uninterrupted and feel like I accomplished something besides looking after everyone else.
Hi Leila would you share your story with http://mum-love.com we get a lot of questions about how do I go back to work
I love this! What you say is bang on. I wrote a bit about this re-entry in my last post about telling my boss I was pregnant and navigating the return to work. I came to the same conclusion that realised that the "machine" I was at work prior to kids was someone I had to leave behind. Childcare limits necessitate a hard out at 5pm for one thing! But there is still much masking to be done every single day. There is a fear of not being valued or seeming unprofessional because you want to prioritise your child. How stressful we each found fitting back into work post-mat leave across my working mum mates, directly correlated with the degree to which their household relied on their income. More fear of revealing the true struggle = appearing more unreliable to employer = high risk strategy.
Thanks for taking the time to share. Interesting that the stress correlated to the financial pressure to earn. Being real, authentic, admitting how little sleep they were getting etc would be far too risky. I’ll check out your post too x
👏👏👏on getting these platforms to spread the message. Shocking truth is ‘Brad’ if did have kids he would still do all those things because the mother of his children is pulling the load alone unless ’Brad’ deans to ‘help her out’. It’s not just seismic change is the UNPAID LABOUR that sinks us. I for one embraced going back to work where I could actually finish a hot cup of tea uninterrupted and feel like I accomplished something besides looking after everyone else.
I hadn’t even thought that about Brad. Man, he’s one lucky guy. Maybe I need to bring Mrs Brad into this story