I work with mums on building capacity and everyone says 'fill your cup, look after yourself' but really that's about helping to lessen the load you speak of in the jug. I refer to it as the backpack we're carrying and it's full of old expectations, other people's crap and dreams that are buried under the bananas & nappies - if you don't take stock & consciously choose what's in there it becomes very heavy to carry.
I think it's helpful for mums to think in these kind of metaphors so they can have a visual to articulate when they're at their limit & need to reduce the stress.
I only have 2 little girls who run circles around me, so I can imagine 3 at the same age requires lots of regulation skills 🫶
Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment. I love the idea of the backpack. In real life I’m always finding bits of broken toys, clothes I forgot to put in the wash, crushed up snacks at the bottom of the bag so it’s a great metaphor.
I also talk a lot about expectations as they have just become unhealthy for mums. Look forward to more juicy chats x
I work with mums on building capacity and everyone says 'fill your cup, look after yourself' but really that's about helping to lessen the load you speak of in the jug. I refer to it as the backpack we're carrying and it's full of old expectations, other people's crap and dreams that are buried under the bananas & nappies - if you don't take stock & consciously choose what's in there it becomes very heavy to carry.
I think it's helpful for mums to think in these kind of metaphors so they can have a visual to articulate when they're at their limit & need to reduce the stress.
I only have 2 little girls who run circles around me, so I can imagine 3 at the same age requires lots of regulation skills 🫶
Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment. I love the idea of the backpack. In real life I’m always finding bits of broken toys, clothes I forgot to put in the wash, crushed up snacks at the bottom of the bag so it’s a great metaphor.
I also talk a lot about expectations as they have just become unhealthy for mums. Look forward to more juicy chats x
Haha yeah my nappy bag would always end up like that 😅🫣 I think it helps us to consider what kind of load we want to carry