Love this piece. But do you ever feel judged by other mums for doing things for your self? As a mum of twins who prioritises exercise as I know it’s good for my physical and mental health (and I’m a much better mum as a consequence) I get so many snide comments about how I make everyone else feel bad because I do this one thing for me (whilst also drowning like everyone else) any thoughts on how to handle it?
Firstly, yes I get judged. I did an article in the Daily Mail when my triplets were 18 months old about how I prioritise going to the gym and why I encourage other mums to ditch the guilt around doing things for themselves. I got some supportive comments but also the trolls came out. I actually didn’t brave reading the comments for a year. One troll said “I would say you’re neglecting your children.” No doubt this is someone who has never done a single 12 hr shift with baby triplets in his/her life!
Secondly, in motherhood your judged whatever you do. So you’re best off doing what’s right for you and your family. I say something like, “Yes I do go to the gym and when I come back I feel like my batteries are recharged and I can cope.”
Oh my gosh I’m so sorry that happened. It’s mad isn’t it how much we get criticized as mums. Whatever we do but particularly if we do anything that might appear to be for ourselves!
By the time my kids were grown my adrenals were so shot I didn’t even know what made me happy. Literally. Retuning to open water swimming 🏊🏻♀️ was a first step. I dived into a lake to lose my mind and find my soul.
The first artistic story piece I did was Selkie Stories: weaving the wild feminine. About seal women whose skin was stolen by some lonely man entrapping them in a marriage… once you find that skin & dive in you have to learn how to breathe underwater again. Learning to breathe 🧘🏻♀️
Love this piece. But do you ever feel judged by other mums for doing things for your self? As a mum of twins who prioritises exercise as I know it’s good for my physical and mental health (and I’m a much better mum as a consequence) I get so many snide comments about how I make everyone else feel bad because I do this one thing for me (whilst also drowning like everyone else) any thoughts on how to handle it?
Firstly, yes I get judged. I did an article in the Daily Mail when my triplets were 18 months old about how I prioritise going to the gym and why I encourage other mums to ditch the guilt around doing things for themselves. I got some supportive comments but also the trolls came out. I actually didn’t brave reading the comments for a year. One troll said “I would say you’re neglecting your children.” No doubt this is someone who has never done a single 12 hr shift with baby triplets in his/her life!
Secondly, in motherhood your judged whatever you do. So you’re best off doing what’s right for you and your family. I say something like, “Yes I do go to the gym and when I come back I feel like my batteries are recharged and I can cope.”
Oh my gosh I’m so sorry that happened. It’s mad isn’t it how much we get criticized as mums. Whatever we do but particularly if we do anything that might appear to be for ourselves!
By the time my kids were grown my adrenals were so shot I didn’t even know what made me happy. Literally. Retuning to open water swimming 🏊🏻♀️ was a first step. I dived into a lake to lose my mind and find my soul.
The first artistic story piece I did was Selkie Stories: weaving the wild feminine. About seal women whose skin was stolen by some lonely man entrapping them in a marriage… once you find that skin & dive in you have to learn how to breathe underwater again. Learning to breathe 🧘🏻♀️